Lolita had to be the most challenging book I have ever read. Reading the story through Humbert’s perspective was hard to read. The feelings he had for the twelve year old nymphet Lolita was disturbing. Also reading that Lolita was the first one to push their relationship towards a sexual level really disturbed me as well. What young twelve year old girls would want to sleep with an older man? I remember when I was twelve or thirteen years old my friends and I would dream about holding hands with the hottest guy at school that was around our age. We were not fantasizing about an old man that could be our step dad. I feel that Humbert did make it seem like Lolita wanted to have sex. He may have added that to make it look like it was consensual sex and not rape. However, Humbert is not a reliable source due to the fact that he was once in a mental institution. This makes the readers question how well his judgement is and how much does he make up in his mind. We are not sure if Lolita was toying with him during the first half of the novel or was he making it all up in his head. Also we all know that he was in fact raping her and keeping her captive during the second part of the book in just the way he describe the relationship he had at that point with Lolita.
After Lolita escaped away from Humbert we find out that she is pregnant and she was always in love with Quilty an old sick perverted man that likes to have sex with different partners at the same time. This part of the story that Humbert writes about I do believe it is true because we can see that he gets heart broken and goes off to kills Quilty for taking his Lolita away. Lolita flirting with Humbert and her being in love with Quilty is kind of gross and we can say that Lolita might have some issues. Learning about Lolita’s relationship with her mother, we learn that it was not the best relationship a mother and daughter can have. We can argue that Lolita might have needed a more loving mother that gave her the attention she needed. However, Lolita’s mother could not stand her and wanted to send her off to boarding school after she had married Humbert. What mother would want to send her child off to school because they don’t want her to be apart of their new marriage? I just feel that Lolita’s mother could have been more caring especially since Lolita did not have a father figure in her life while growing up.
There are a lot of cases that young women are attracted to older men which is kind of weird if you ask me. However, I can understand why young women are attracted to older men. Women want men that are ready to be serious about a relationship to settle down and start a family. Young men these days like to date and just see what’s out there and that is not what women want. I feel that every women wants the fairy tale fantasy of having a husband that is mature that is able to support his family. I feel that in a sense this is understandable because I would hate to be in a relationship with a man that is an immature man that is just in it for the kicks. Point is that men that are older are sexier than younger men because they have their shit together and they also know what they want in life. So men the sooner you get your shit together the more faster you get the girl that wants to go all the way with you.
I guess Lolita’s attraction to older men is not as weird if we block out the age difference. Lolita seemed really mature for her age knowing how and what sex was. Lolita was an interesting character because she became promiscuous at such a young age. She developed faster than an average girls does and I feel that is also the reason why she was attracted to older men.